Food For Thought: Is Timing Everything?

Throughout our life, we hear about the value of time. How important it is to make the most out of it and enjoy the time we have on this earth. Time is priceless and will be gone before we know it.

Cherish it. Embrace it. Trust it. Trust it? How do you trust "time" and not resent some of the things that have occurred over the years. "If only I had known that sooner ...." or "If I could just have one more day to spend with a deceased loved one" ... or "I invested so much time in my relationship and we still broke up." We are told that we should trust that things happen for a reason, happen when it's meant to be and that timing is everything. Trust it - but it's harder said than done. I want to share with you two stories that I recently experienced and how time has started to earn my trust after all these years. One story has to do with my professional career and one with my personal life - as we all know, time doesn't discriminate or play favorites. :)

I had been working towards a promotion at my work for over two years. I had excelled in my role, took on new projects and received very positive feedback from my leaders. I was ready. I was ready to take that next step in my career and felt that I deserved it. I applied for the first director position, didn't get it. Interviewed for the second, didn't get it. Interviewed for the third .... didn't get it. I was devastated and started to doubt myself. I had this image in my mind that I had to get from point A to point B by a certain time, and had to work really hard to get that accomplished. Being an achiever is certainly one of my strengths and when I didn't, it weighed heavily on me. I'd ask myself, "Why not me? I'm perfect for the position". My doubt quickly became fear and I had to remind myself, never give up. Shortly after, the right position for me become available and I threw my name in the hat. I put forth everything I had, showcased the skills I could bring to the table and trusted that if it was meant to be, I would get the role. The stars aligned and it was my time: I got the position. It's been over 90 days and it still feels unreal. I enjoy the team I support and my leader - Truly grateful and blessed.

My second story is also recent and it's a story about love. Love is probably one of the most challenging and complex things in this life. At the same time, it's magical and makes everything in this world worthwhile. I had been in two long relationships in my 20s - One for 7 years and the second one for 3 years. Neither one of them was working out, so we went our separate ways. I was 30, single, never been married and lonely. Now, not lonely in the sense of not having people I love around me - I have an amazing family, great friends and beautiful dogs - Lonely when it comes to having someone that you can be romantic with and see your future with them. Grow together, live together and have a family together. I was like ..."What the hell? Did I do something wrong? Am I being punished for something I did and that is why I haven't found the right person?" 30 turned 31 and 32 was right around the corner .... when I decided to invite a close friend of mine to a Tequila Festival. :)

"You can call it fate ... or destiny .... Sometimes it really seems like its a mystery"

That same night, I met my now husband and we got married two years later. We have purchased our first home, traveled and experienced new things together. My husband and I had several of mutual friends, he knew my best friends and my sister ... but our paths had never crossed. We may have been in the same party or around the same group of people, but it wasn't till that night that we had the opportunity to connect. I don't know if the same result would of happened if we had met earlier in our lives, but all I know is that it felt just right.

One day, my husband played a song called "Timing is Everything" by Garret Hedlund. Song mentions how "when it seems true love is hard to find, that's when love comes along ... just in time". Is it fate, destiny or a simple coincidence? Time seemed to be against me but ended being a blessing in disguise. All we can do is trust that time is on our side. :)